My friend, John Stiles, has written a superb book that delves into the harsh differences between how we as believers see ourselves and how the rest of culture sees us. Yet the story is far from discouraging. He brings us back to the “amazing grace” that we have received in our lives, and encourages us to look thru the eyes of Jesus as we approach and converse with the world. I can’t think of a more relevant message for the church today.

Mac Powell
Lead vocalist for the Multi-Grammy Award winning band, Third Day


I’m so phony sometimes that I can hardly stand myself. This book is uncomfortable – very uncomfortable – for professional Christians like me to read. But it is far more than an uncomfortable read – it is a book of great hope and joy. John Stiles tells us the truth about the problem, but he also points to the hope. With refreshing honesty and Biblical insight, this book could change your life and renew the church. If enough of us read it, it could lead to another “Great Awakening.” Read it, repent, and then dance in the love and forgiveness of the God to whom this book points.

Dr. Steve Brown
Host, Key Life syndicated radio program
Author, Three Free Sins: God Isn’t mad At You


In my own childhood, hypocrisy in the church was the principle catalyst that caused me to become an atheist for seven years. It was not until I saw a genuine representation of Jesus in a Christian leader that my heart was once again open to the claims of the Christian faith. Dr. Stiles’ well-researched and compelling book provides the perfect on-ramp for those considering not merely the claims of Christians, but of Jesus Himself.

Francis Anfuso
Author, Church Wounds


When John Stiles says that “people are still watching us,” he knows what he is talking about. This is a book for all of us who publicly, in one way or another, align with the Christian faith. Based on solid research, Dr. Stiles reminds us that the scriptures are more concerned with the way we treat others and live authentically in a broken world than with making sure we win battles or defeat our supposed enemies. I am going to be using this book for a long time to come.

Chap Clark, PhD
Associate Provost for Regional Campuses and Strategic Projects
Professor of Youth, Family, and Culture
Fuller Theological Seminary